When your vagina is relaxed and receptive it becomes the most amazingly sensitive organ, capable of experiencing subtle energies and generating beautifully exquisite sensations.
Unfortunately, as the standard model of sex is for vigorous thrusting into the vagina, our vaginas tend to become ‘hardened’ to the subtlety.
Also, because of the focus on the clitoris, the vagina can get neglected. To the extent that some people feel that the clitoris is the only important sex organ for a woman and that the vagina is simply a vessel for the man’s penis to enjoy. So most of the attention goes on to the clitoris, with strong stimulation there to the point of orgasm, followed by intercourse until he comes.
The clitoris is very wonderful, of course! But so is the vagina. I’d like you to reclaim your vagina as the wonderful, sensitive organ that it can be.
To do this, you need to approach intercourse slowly, tenderly and gently. You won’t awaken the subtle ecstasy with vigorous stimulation. So follow this general approach:
When you first start making love in this way, you may not feel much at all, as you are so used to intensity, your vagina is unable to feel subtlety. Keep practicing and over time you will find your vagina opening up and receiving fully, allowing the most wonderful sensations to flow within you and between you.
You may also find that it brings up strong emotions. Many vaginas have hardened due to the repeated ‘penetration’ - an aggressive approach on the part of the penis that requires the vagina to go into defensive mode, literally ‘steeling’ itself for the anticipated attack. In allowing your vagina to relax and soften, and to welcome in the penis, this can unblock emotions. If this happens, simply allow yourself to feel those emotions, and allow your partner to be present with you as this happens. A similar experience can be had by the man, as he feels for the first time truly welcomed and embraced by the vagina.
When you make love in this way, you are ‘plugging in’ to each other, the positive and negative, masculine and feminine, yin and yang uniting. Rather than two genitals having a physical friction based arousal, you’re allowing a meeting of subtle energies. The exquisite sensations this can produce, and the true feeling of love and connection between two lovers, is indescribable.
To learn more about becoming more fully into your feminine and being able to soften and open up in this way, I recommend you attend my women's Tantra Fusion workshop Luscious Woman.
Copyright 2012 Jacqueline Hellyer
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