Jealousy in Unexpected Places

The jealousy that’s not really talked about in the Swinging scene is when it’s the playmate/s that get jealous or possessive.

Jealousy is often talked about in this lifestyle when it comes to the couple and their relationship with each other, they can’t be jealous or possessive with their partner in order to swing and enjoy the fun, but the jealousy that’s not really talked about where it’s the playmate/s that get jealous or possessive. Yes, it’s true!

I’ve seen it a few times now where playmates, be it a single person or another couple, get jealous or possessive when their favourite toys are off playing with someone new or, if they are in a group situation they get upset because the person they want to play with is engaged in fun with someone else.

Sometimes it’s the “I/we met them first” kind of deal, and sometimes it’s just “but I/we really want to play with them!”This is not a jealousy that I ever expected to come across in this lifestyle but I’ve seen it, and experienced it in various forms.

I have to admit that there have been times where I’ve wanted some playmates to myself for a bit, or I’ve seen them with someone and wished they were with me. Not to the point where I got upset or it ruined my night but I have seen other people get jealous and it has made what was supposed to be a fun, free-loving experience, turn into a night of drama and tears. There’s no fun in that and you need to watch out for the signs.

  • Comments that suggest they feel like they are “missing out” on time with you.
  • Persistence to spend more time with them, bordering on being demanding.
  • Anger, frustration or other negative emotions displayed when you tell them you’re catching up with someone else.
  • And even blatant comments to others suggesting that you are theirs.