Some handy hints and tips on how you can continue your swinging adventure while keeping the kids in the dark and out of your play space.
There is nothing in the rule book that says once you are a parent that all the fun times are over. In fact, most couples I know didn’t start the really fun stuff until after they had kids! You just have to know what options are available in order to squeeze in some playtime of your own.
While there are a growing number of parents swinging, there are some couples who are putting off the breeding part until they’ve had enough fun… Well let me share something with you, while you may eventually get to a point where you feel you have had enough and could stop playing to have kids, at some point you are more than likely going to want to come back to the playground for more. The beauty of it is, you can!
So here are some tips and hints to swinging when you’ve got kids. Please keep in mind that not everyone will be comfortable with some of the suggestions, I suggest you just choose what will work best for you.
If they are old enough for sleep overs at friends houses, perfect. Kids generally like to stay with their friends as long as possible so if you have the 2 (or more) of them one night, negotiate that they all go to the other kids place the next night or vice versa.
Baby sitters are great, and if they can have them overnight it’s even better! Where possible this is one of the best options. The only issue is that it sometimes requires some advanced planning and things don’t always work to plan on the night. We’ve managed to get a night off only to have our playmates cancel for unexpected reasons, leaving us with a night without kids and no extra fun. In times like that, some back up single guys are good and often available (not to be confused with easy, although some are), or else just enjoy some quality time together and do something different.
Family members are good babysitters too, although they may ask questions if you are using their services on a very regular basis. They’ll only accept “it’s a dinner party thing and no one is bringing their kids” so many times. So share the babysitting around and occasionally entertain at home so you can keep up the fun times without arousing suspicion.
When the kids are younger, such as less than 2, chances are that once they are in bed that you’ll get a good 6 – 12 hours of adult only time so it doesn’t matter if they are in the house or not. You just have to be prepared that if they do wake up crying, that it may interrupt play. You know what your child’s sleep patterns are so you’ll know if this can work for you.
For older kids it can be a little trickier if you’re entertaining at home. Generally they don’t get up, but they could. Some kids knock, some don’t and some master bedrooms share walls with kids and there’s nothing worse than trying to have a screaming orgasm quietly. The key is keeping them in their rooms and having enough warning to untangle yourself from whoever and tend to them.